This is for the girls who have the tendency to stay up all night listening to music that reminds them of their current situation. Who hide their fears, hurt, pain and tears under their smiles and laughs all on a daily basis. The girls who wear their hearts on their sleeve. The girls who pray things will workout just once and they’ll be satisfied. The girls who scream and cry into their pillows because the rest of the world fails to listen. The girls who have it hard but don’t let anyone know that. The girls who may never have it easy. The girls who have so many secrets but will never tell a soul. The girls who have regrets and mistakes as a daily moral. The girls who don’t always win, who may never win. The girls who stay up all night thinking about that one boy wondering if he’ll ever notice her. The girls who get what they get and don’t throw a fit. The girls who take life as it comes, hoping it’ll get easier somewhere down the road. The girls who love with all their hearts but always get broken. This is for the real girls. This is for you.
When a person is hurt by someone they love and care about, it is difficult for them to open up again and bring trust back into their future relationships and friendships. You want to stay emotionally blocked to avoid from being hurt. You want to love, but you approach the feeling with caution out of fear. Is it possible to open up to someone and still keep your feelings protected? It is… and here are some ways on how to do it.
1. Realization. Realize that anyone can hurt you, just like you can hurt anyone. Do you remember the last time you hurt someone? Weren’t you apologetic afterwards? Didn’t you wish you could take it back? When others hurt you, realize that they are just like you… human. When you hurt them, it was probably unintentional. It may have been the same thing with them.
2. Preparation. Prepare yourself for the worst. Be prepared to get hurt. Don’t just assume that the person WILL hurt you, but at least if they do, you were prepared for it. Knowing someone for years or being in love with them won’t prevent the hurt.
I was having a conversation with one of my best friends a few days ago about whether or not it is smart to move in with your boyfriend before marriage. This is always a skeptical subject because I, personally, don’t know if I would move in with my boyfriend or not. My mom thinks it isn’t smart because it may ruin the marriage once you realize there are things about him or her that you don’t like, but on the other hand, my best friend said you should because it’ll show you everything you need to know about a person. That way… you know EVERYTHING before you decide to get married.
I know I’ve been gone for a minute. School has taken over my life something serious! But I did want to share a homework assignment with you that I just finished a while ago, regarding the war in Iraq. Our class was told to discuss what role the media played in the war in Iraq and how that may have affected the public’s awareness.
I don’t know how many of you have seen the YouTube video, “Zeitgeist,” and if you haven’t I suggest you take the time to watch. It’s very imformative and very eye-opening. So, after doing extreme research, I have come to believe that the war on Iraq was caused by the United States. Though, al-Qaeda attacked our country first, the United States was well-aware of the attack and could have easily been prepared for it. And I do believe that those who lost their lives on September 11, 2001 could have been saved.
One thing I can definitely say about myself is that I have never been the stalker ex-girlfriend who just “couldn’t let go.” But I’ve experienced it. I’ve had boyfriends in the past who had a crazy ex-girlfriend of their own. And the funny thing is… she ends up causing a lot of drama in the relationship. Why is that? My theory… some men [not ALL] don’t like to hurt women’s feelings, whether they’re an ex-girlfriend or a random female. And that… to me, is what causes a lot of the problems in the relationship.
Everyone deals with break-ups differently. Some take the break-up as another opportunity to start dating again and immediately go out and find their next, while others sit and dwell on what went wrong. My question to you is this: does it make you a bad person to immediately want to move on following a break up? Do you think a person SHOULD take time to themselves?
So being in college, I’ve seen all types of weaves. Mainly because many women don’t like taking care of their hair away from their hometown… and that’s completely understandable. When you move to a new area, it’s always hard to find a good beautician that does your hair the way you want it done. I understand… but some of the weaves I see are just ugly. #yeahisaidit! You can tell a lot of women don’t know how to maintain their weaves. So… of course, I did some research to help YOU out. Take a look…